To Be A Creepy Author Stalker, or Not to Be. That’s My Question

by James L. Rubart

“There’s a post on Facebook about ROOMS you might want to take a look at.”

My wife mentioned this to me last week as I was working on an omelet. I took a peek. 

The remark was posted on a Facebook group I’m a member of. It was from a lady who essentially commented on how, um, well … utterly amazing the novel is. (Sorry, I always have a hard time not feeling like I’m tooting my own horn when I quote readers.)

There were quite a few comments back and forth from others in the group (both pro and con) and as I scrolled through the thread I debated whether to stay silent or jump in. 

I stayed silent. 

What Would You Have Done?

On one hand, the lady who was so enthusiastic about the novel might have enjoyed me getting involved in the discussion. “Hey, the guy who wrote the book is here? Cool!” And I am a member of the group. 

On the other, it might have come across as a little creepy. As if I’m scouring the internet, watching for people who like my books like Big Brother, then throwing back the curtain and jumping into the party without really being invited.

It Comes Down to Our Readers

Like probably all of you, I was a reader a lot longer than I’ve been an author. Putting myself in a reader’s shoes, if one of my favorite authors commented on a blog post, or Facebook comment of mine, part of me would be thrilled, and part of me would find it disconcerting. 

In the end (for me) the disconcerting part was is a little bigger, so I kept my laptop on mute.

Your Turn

If you’re published, how have you handled scenarios like the above? If it hasn’t happened yet, how do you think you’ll react when it does?

If you’re not yet published, how would you feel if an author you’ve never heard of (before reading their novel) dove into a social media discussion based on your comments? Excited? Exited and a little weirded out? Only weirded out?

Gotta go, the FB app on my phone just buzzed …  

James L. Rubart is the best-selling, Christy award winning author of seven novels as well as a professional speaker. During the day he runs Barefoot Marketing which helps authors and publishers make more coin of the realm. He lives with his amazing wife in the Pacific Northwest and loves to dirt bike with his two sons, hike, golf, take photos, and still thinks he’s young enough to water ski like a madman. More at