Writing Comparisons—Key Differences Between Success and Failure

Edie Melson is the author of numerous books, as well as a freelance writer and editor. Her blog, The Write Conversation, reaches thousands each month. She’s the co-director of the Blue Ridge Mountains ChristianWriters Conference and the Social Media Mentor at My Book Therapy. She’s also the Military Family Blogger at Guideposts. Com, Social Media Director for SouthernWriters Magazine and the Senior Editor for NovelRocket.com. Connect with her on Twitter and Facebook.

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Success Vs. Failure
As writers,
we’re warned early on to avoid the trap of comparison. Each of us has a
different path to success—and a different path to publication. These varying
ways of living life as a writer aren’t good and bad or even better and
best—they’re just different.
Today I want to
encourage you to do just the opposite.
While we
shouldn’t judge our value as writers by looking at one another. There are some
comparisons that can make a difference between fulfilling our dreams or losing
heart and quitting when success is just around the corner. These are some key
differences between successful and unsuccessful writers.
1. Goals vs.
Wishes
A successful
writer
sets goals.
An
unsuccessful writer
makes
wishes.
2. Striving
vs. Complacency
A successful
writer
finds others who
are further along on the writing journey and strives to catch up.
An
unsuccessful writer
finds
others who are further behind on the writing journey and relishes being
ahead.
3. Taking
Responsibility vs. Whining
A successful
writer
takes
responsibility for making the dream happen.
An
unsuccessful writer

whines about all the reasons the dream will never happen.
4. Acting
vs. Talking
A successful
writer
invests time,
energy and money in learning how to write better.
An
unsuccessful writer
talks
about writing better.
5. Belief
vs. Unbelief
A successful
writer
believes in her
dream.
An
unsuccessful writer

believes it will never happen to her.
6. Positive
Companions vs. Negative Companions
A successful
writer
surrounds himself
with others who are willing to pay the price for success.
An
unsuccessful writer
hangs
out with others who make excuses for not attaining their dreams.
7. Talks
About Ideas vs. Talks About People
A successful
writer
talks about ideas.
An
unsuccessful writer
talks
about other writers.
8.
Takes Responsibility vs. Places Blame
A successful
writer
takes
responsibilities for failures.
An
unsuccessful writer
looks
for others to blame for failure.
9. Rejoices
in the Success of Others vs. Rejoices in the Failure of Others
A successful
writer
takes joy in the
success of others.
An
unsuccessful writer
takes
joy in the failure of others.
10. Embraces
Change vs. Avoids Change
A successful
writer
looks for ways to
embrace change.
An unsuccessful
writer
looks for ways to
avoid change.
11. Afraid
of Mistakes vs. Afraid of Trying
A successful
writer
isn’t afraid to
try something difficult and make mistakes.
An
unsuccessful writer

believes that not making a mistake is better than ever trying at all.
And
ultimately… 
12. Keeps
Trying vs. Gives Up
A successful
writer
never gives up.
An
unsuccessful writer

quits.

This is my list.
What would you add?