What I’d Change About My Writing Journey

You hear it all the time when people are trying to
make sense of their trials in life.
“The struggles only made me stronger. I wouldn’t
change a thing…” Maybe you’ve even said it to try and ease the agnoy of your
writing journey.
While the first part of that statement may be true,
struggles do make us stronger, be honest, you wouldn’t change a thing?
Really? I can probably go back through my entire life and find things that I would
change. But let’s focus on my publishing journey.
Would
I change the fact I thought I had to shelve my writing for ten years while I
raised my kids?
Yep, I wish I would’ve found the
support of other writing moms and organizations like ACFW sooner so I could
slowly improve my craft instead of diving in like a mad woman (and messing up
my priorities) when I thought the timing was right. Thankfully for young moms today,
the internet is overflowing with helpful writing blogs, like Novel Rocket and support groups. You
don’t have to wait to write. I wish I would’ve had the resources ten years ago
that you have today.
Would
I change the fact I struggled to find the balance between writing,
homeschooling, and life?
And still struggle to find the
time to write while constantly feeling pulled in every direction? You betcha.
It would’ve been much easier to figure it all out instantly and not have to
continue to struggle in this area, but then again, I wouldn’t have founded Writer…Interrupted, a website where I
encourage other busy, interrupted writers trying to balance life and this
writing thing.
Would
I change seven years of writing rejections and heartache?
Okay,
that’s a no brainer! But it only made me stronger, right?
What
about changing the years I spent doubting my abilities
only
to have my agent, Chip MacGregor, repeatedly tell me that I was a good writer
and one day “it” would happen. And he was right! After seven years (or eight, I lost count) of pursuing
publication, my novella with Barbour released
a year ago
and Digging Up Death,
the book he signed me with four years ago but didn’t sell at first, released
this past November. Though I would’ve changed the timing and process of it all, my agent was right. It did happen.
Do
I wish Digging Up Death would have
sold the first time around?
Sure, but God has His own agenda
and His timing is perfect, even if I don’t agree with it. In my finite wisdom,
I’ve tried to make sense of the waiting period, and can only hope that now as a
more established writer, my reach can go farther than it would have four years
ago. At least that’s what I’m telling myself.
Would
I change all the worrying and “trying to make it happen” I did over those seven
years?
Absolutely! There is freedom in surrendering the process
to the One who gave you the gift. You should try it sometime.
Would
I change the fact that those I mentored got published before me?
Um,
did you really have to ask? Being left behind isn’t fun, but I’ve learned that
while it would’ve been easier to have had things my own way, I would’ve missed
the things I needed to learn to get to where I am… so I can be a better writer.
I could go on and on with things I’d change, but
why? While journeying this crazy writer life, it’s easy to fall into the ‘woe
is me’ role, believe me, I’ve been there…still visit on occasion, but over
the years I’ve learned not to look at my writing journey or hardships with
regret. I’ve also realized that I’d be lying if I spouted “I wouldn’t change a
thing,” because I would. Instead, I choose to look ahead to the road in front
of me. Be it easy or hard, I’ll face it knowing at least I’m moving forward.
Where
are you in your writing journey? Are you living in the land of “woe is me” or
are you moving forward?


Gina Conroy is founder of Writer…Interrupted and is still learning how to balance a career with raising a family. Represented by Chip MacGregor, she finds time to write fun, quirky mysteries in between carpooling and ballroom dancing . Her first book Cherry Blossom Capers, released from Barbour Publishing in January 2012, and Digging Up Death is available now.